Thought For The Day
Luncheon of the Boating Party by Pierre-Auguste Renoir
Have you ever noticed that when you get together with a close friend or relative after a long absence, the
intense feeling of wanting to share things with them you feel they would understand in a much more
meaningful way than most folks? If what you wish to share with them is in a format that requires
preparation,presentation, waiting for assimilation and then awaiting comment (praise is the operative word
here), it seems a very long wait? In the absorption of your offering, because of the closeness of mind and
spirit, there inevitably is a response in the form of an offering back to you either in a like format or yet
another format that illustrates the point you were making in the offering you gave in the first place. So, the
presentations alternate and the desperation grows as each wait's for the praise but is given an alternate
offering in it's place seeking it's praise. This happy moment runs the risk of seriously eroding the good will of
both participants and yet, it is born of the love and longing for the company, each of the other. How often is,
what we seek, approval from someone we love and admire? That is not to say we do not seek the approval
of those we do not know, but admire. Approval and admiration is welcome from any audience. It is just
deigned from many, expected from some, and relished from a few. And then, there are those from whom but
a slight nod of approval would induce a profusion of ecstasy.
I have observed people visiting over lunch, drinks or even in the parking lot speaking with great enthusiasm
about something of the utmost importance. In this observation I have noted a kind of simultaneous delivery
of information with very little, if any, response or appreciation directed back at the spirited offering. And all
parties in attendance participate at the same time Which on it's face could imply little interest in the other
speakers words. This is something I have noticed more often with a group of women than men. There is no
intended judgement here. It is merely an observation. Women tend not to seek solutions to be employed but
ears to hear their protestations. Men are far more interested in offering solutions and improvements. It's a
kind of social interchange that could, if you thought it through, completely mystify you. In the end I believe
that what is achieved is not so much the movement of information from one person to the other but rather a
kind of mutual bathing in words and ideas for the purpose of cleansing the absence, the awful, lonely,
unforgiving, indiscriminate absence.
Herb Ratliff, March 6, 2012, All Rights Reserved